Well, good news everyone…we made it through our first night at home! Only a few tears, and one small meltdown, and the baby, of course, was perfect.
It’s funny, being a first time dad, the things nobody tells you that you end up learning on the fly, or better yet, through trial and error. You can go to all the baby classes you want (and I assure you, we did) and get all the advice from people who are, “experts”, (you know who I’m talking about), but in the end, there are so many things that you never find out about until your faced with dealing with them right at that very moment.
One of the first things I want to talk about is how much I can’t stress the importance of being there for your partner! I won’t go into great personal detail about everything, out of respect for my partner, but I will tell you that a lot of the “personal barriers” that some couples keep between each other (use your imagination), can be kissed good-bye. And as well they should be.
This woman just grew a baby in her belly, and carried it for 9+ months, keeping it safe and protected from the outside world. Then she spent who knows how long, pushing the baby out of her so that you two could hold the baby together and love it and raise it as one. Her poor body has gone through hell and back making this little miracle a reality! I assure you, your part in all of this wasn’t as long as you like to imagine it was, stow your ego, boys.
She’s going to continue to go through a lot of changes even after the baby gets here. Mentally, physically, emotionally, physiologically. I’m guilty of not always being the most open and emotionally reachable man on the planet, but the one thing I realized this afternoon, is that no matter what, YOU NEED TO BE THERE FOR YOUR PARTNER! You are not so proud or so much better than the rest of us that you can’t do this for her, after all that she has done and will continue to do for you and your baby.
Things here at home are still a little hectic from time to time, but like the song says, “We’ve only just begun”. We’ve got a long time to figure things out, and we’re going to need all of that time to get it right. And so will you. I’ll leave you with this; just because you make a mistake, doesn’t mean that you’re not going to be good at this. I used breast milk in an attempt to make scrabbled eggs this morning. ( Don’t worry sweetheart, I caught my mistake before we ate!)
You’re going to be just fine.